Someday there will be a hole punched in my wall by this sweet little kid.
My little brother did it, Kyle did it...I suppose it's just a boy thing.
I understand, sometimes it's very frustrating to vent anger. I, for one, am a major door slammer followed by a period of the silent treatment. Girls.
As for boys, it's all new to me. I am at a loss as to what to do with Spencer. He's weeks away from two and I already need to send him to therapy to work out his anger issues. Whenever he gets mad he wrecks havoc on whatever poor inanimate object might be in front of him. This morning he threw one of our little kiddie chairs across the kitchen after a little fit about...I don't even remember about what. This evening right before bed he took one of my big kitchen chairs and knocked it over because something wasn't going his way. He's thrown toys, spoons, books across the room, he even goes after poor Janelle if she makes him mad. (I know, you'd think she'd be able to defend herself a little better than she does being a whole foot taller than he is, but no such luck.) I've started putting him in time out every time he throws something or knocks something over (during his little tantrums), but I'm not sure he understands why he's getting in trouble. Tonight after he'd been in time out I made him help me pick the chair back up, which surprisingly he totally took in stride. But usually I can tell he totally does not get the time out thing.
I understand, sometimes it's very frustrating to vent anger. I, for one, am a major door slammer followed by a period of the silent treatment. Girls.
As for boys, it's all new to me. I am at a loss as to what to do with Spencer. He's weeks away from two and I already need to send him to therapy to work out his anger issues. Whenever he gets mad he wrecks havoc on whatever poor inanimate object might be in front of him. This morning he threw one of our little kiddie chairs across the kitchen after a little fit about...I don't even remember about what. This evening right before bed he took one of my big kitchen chairs and knocked it over because something wasn't going his way. He's thrown toys, spoons, books across the room, he even goes after poor Janelle if she makes him mad. (I know, you'd think she'd be able to defend herself a little better than she does being a whole foot taller than he is, but no such luck.) I've started putting him in time out every time he throws something or knocks something over (during his little tantrums), but I'm not sure he understands why he's getting in trouble. Tonight after he'd been in time out I made him help me pick the chair back up, which surprisingly he totally took in stride. But usually I can tell he totally does not get the time out thing.
Help!
Any suggestions?!?!
9 comments:
I personally was (ok, ok, still am) a huge fit thrower. I punched my fair share of holes in walls too. So much for a boy thing. :-) My kids have all gone through this same phase, and seem to have grown out of it (for now anyway). There is a reason it is called the terrible twos! I have endless stories of Ella and her adventures/fits/punishments/disobedience. They would make you feel grateful for a chair thrower, trust me. :-P
I am not qualified to give advice, but I must say he is 100 percent boy in that picture. Love the messy hair.
OH boy! I'm in for so much more aren't I? I'm going to watch the comments to see what advice you get. I am sure my blog will have similar posts in a year....
You're doing what I would. Time out and having him fix what he did....
Kirsten- Thank you for the reminder that this is probably just a phase...please, oh please, let it be a phase! You're right, it's probably not so much a boy thing as a personality thing. Spencer definitely has a fiery one. :) What?!?! Fits from Ella? She seems like such a sweet little thing!
Hillary- I know, 100 percent boy. If you look closely you can see chocolate on his mouth. :)
Sarah- I'm sure your sweet little Mason will turn out to be an angel. :)
I would agree that putting him in time out and helping you fix what he did is a good idea. Boys are definitely different than girls. :)
i would say to make him pick up the chair before putting in the time out. that way he is sure to know exactly why he is going to the corner/time out spot you picked for him. just a suggestion from little ol me:) i think maybe he would connect the two that way? i don't know. just a thought. i'm sure its a phase that he will quickly pass through!
he sure is cute! its a good thing kids are cute, isn't it? :)
Melissa- You can say that again! I had no clue boys were SO different from girls until Spencer was born!
Holly- I will definitely try that next time. Making him pick it up before time out hadn't even occurred to me! Thanks!
Hayden is the exact same way!! When he gets mad he looks for something he can knock over, throw or hit. I don't know what to do either. If one of the girls is right there he hits them. Even if they didn't do anything to him. He is mad because he didn't get his way.
Oh the joys of boys. I wish I had some sage advice for you, but Ben is almost 3 and the fits just keep coming. I do time out thing too, but he's one stubborn kid. I'm with you... please be a phase!
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